relationships...

today, an sms from a dear friend. well, i was asking him something, then together with my reply, he mentioned some problem that he currently faces with his gf. girl feels like she's being captured like a prisoner. girl wants to be free to do the things she wants. guy wants girl to listen to guy, cos guy feels that there should be commitments in a relationship. guy seem to think that they have different perception in life. so he asked for another opinion and reassurance.

also, a week ago or so, ms. wonderful girl called up to tell me that she felt her bf had changed from mr. nice guy to mr. temperamental. she said he used to be real nice and is still an absolutely thoughtful, wonderful, pleasing bf when he is in an excellent mood; but it's "storming" it is really bad. she was sick of the frequent "storms" and could not take it anymore. all i could do was try to calm her down. i love them both and always feel that they are great together. after then phone call, i got kind of worried and shared with two others to ease my burden and ask for advice. one said, as it would soon be over. true enough, they are back to the lovie dovie mode in less than 48 hours and is still in that mode till now.

serious relationships need trust and privacy. in a long-lasting relationship, each partner should have the privilege to some privacy and time away from one another. life time partners should share the same long term visions. easy for me to state, but difficult when it's time to perform.

how much of time is too much for each other? how many times a week should couples, who live in the same city and both working, see each other? once, thrice or every single day? i cannot help but wonder, is spending time together correlated to the success of a relationship? once a week meeting seems to invite third party involvement, since both parties only care and is willing to make a day for each other. everyday will most likely make both partner sick of each other, have nothing much to talk about and thus fight over useless small matters. maybe thrice a week is good, at least it lets both parties have the chance to make time for their hobbies, friends and also miss each other. an abundance of everything is always not good, even when it comes love.

music: the first cut is the deepest - sheryl crow, lovefool - cardigans
mood: average and contented
health: not fit, "heaty"