monogamous relationship

saw quite a sight yesterday. someone that i know (let's say he's not my good friend) was with his new younger girl. she was prettier and full of confidence. he held her hand tight with pride, striding off the mall like a wind. hmnn... life's like that isn't it?

a week or so ago, i asked my christian male collegue if it was okay for a christian to express feelings (verbally, by action or unintentionally) for someone who is already in a relationship, but not yet married. he did not give me a straight answer, but what i perceive was that it should be okay if the other party is not yet married. i asked him, isn't it sinful? to be thinking of someone's belongings? his reply was... "even thinking of someone's pen is sin..."

deep down, i am still unsure. even if the other someone is in a bad relationship, does it mean that we can do that to them? is that tempting them? is that what pastor dave meant by the lust of the flesh?

the world's really full of different kind of people. one of my male cousin would consider a girl going out with a guy alone to movie as kind of adultry. i kind of agree with him in some ways, cos i feel that there is no pure friendship between a guy and a girl. friendship between a guy and a girl usually starts with one of them liking the other, but the other has little or no response. since there's no chance of relationship, friendship would be good as well. it's something like that i guess. there is bound to be some sort of uh-uh-ah-ah feeling of attraction some point in time.

but that's just what i'm thinking now. i may well change my perceptive soon.